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Who do you hate, when you hate men?

By Bobby Ray Andersson All Rights Reserved ©

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Chapter 1

So you think men are frightening?

You might not feel like you can fully express yourself in different situations with men?

You may be scared that all men could possibly be violent, maybe because you’ve seen men behave violently in your past. That is a problem which I see, I don’t deny this.There are assholes people of both genders out there, there most likely always will.I don’t try to deny or hide this, and when it comes to topic of equality men really should take more responsebility of their share of the problem.
But then to do what many do and put all the blame on the men, is also kind of wrong, putting all men in the same corner.
Today I read a list of reasons why a women hated men, och since she spent months writing and preparing her text, I assume she choose her words patiently.To in that moment put all men in her arguments is gender discrimination.

The problem isn’t just the men.The problem might be some of the men, but a part of the same problem, that is the equality problem. Is that women and men are pitted against eachother in the first place.Arguments fly from men that women do that and women say that men did this.

But we are all people, made to make our own way, here in life.People tend to seperate, categorize us and say that, you are like this, you are that, and this is a big part of the problem.
You might think that all carpenters might be rapists or pedophiles and you preach this.Then you are dameging these peoples reputation, by telling people that all carpenters might be rapists. This puts a seed in peoples minds.But I know alot of carpenters, most of them men, and they don’t rape or fight everyone. Just like all women aren’t bankrobberers.

To say that you hate something in someone, that in itself is a proof that you have yourself created your feelings towards men, not the other way around.
Listen carefully to that sentence again. ..
You create the feeling, You project that feeling on men.
You might say that you are scared of yourself. By imagening scenarios like, oh, that man walking behind me might be wanting to rape me at this moment. But he is probably also on his way home, just like you.

It is inside your own mind that the fear is, not in the man... Think about that one...

A homofphobe, is scared of homosexuals, and in many cases that fear is about missunderstanding the homosexual and their choises. You are scared because you don’t understand how that person works. You don’t understand everything easily put. That is the foundation of your fear.

It is the same thing that happens when ---->not all<---- but many, gets scared of men.Because you don’t know that man behind you, so you get scared. It’s understandable, pure psychology.

Would you have known it was Per, and that he was a father of three going to the store to buy milk and that his car was in the shop, so he walked, we’ll then you wouldn’t be scared. You would know it was Per, another humanbeing, just like any else.

But you don’t know everybody, you don’t know everything about everybody, so you get scared.Scared of all those men you don’t know. Poor you, applying fear on all those men around you.Phobia of men. Men isn’t the scary thing, it is you applying the fear on the men. But psychology isn’t easy to understand.

I understand that rape is a horrific to the aboslute limit and has to be worked against. Nothing I say is against that. I merely trying to say that we can’t walk around and belive that all men are possibly rapists. Just the thought of the negativity in that statement on a gender is so humiliating and discriminating, that statement itself is psychologicaly unhealthy.

As unhealthy as saying that a certain colour of skin would emply that, that peson might be a possible rapist. It is rasism, but based in gender, in otherwords oppression.

I understand her fear, she who is scared. But her fear is not my fault. I haven’t rape her, or anybody, so why is her fear getting out on me.Arguements like, it’s okey to feel that fear of men or that it’s right to fear men. That’s just an excuse not to deal with your fear, or phobia of men.The best thing would be to overcome your fears, not learn to live despite them.

I understand the fear, I really do, because I m not stupid to think as I do, you think like you want and be scared of all men, I’m not saying you aren’t allowed to think that.I’m saying for your own sake, that, wouldn’t it feel better to face your fears, maybe through therapy and slowly grow out of your fear. Rather then to live life scared and in terror.

Believe me, overcoming your fears doesn’t imply that you stop being carefull when you walk the streets in the middle of the night in the weekend, it’s about your psychological health, when you imagine that, now I’m about to get raped by this guy behind me, not just is it hurting him, no, it’s hurting you and your view on men.

Everytime you think a though like that towards men, it will get more and more in to your psyche and keep growing, until that day when it turns to hate. That day, when it isn’t longer about your fear, but your hate towards men.

But it is totally your own choice, be angry at men, be my guest, it couldn’t bother me less because that is your choice to do, to make up your own mind and feelings.

But I sincerely feel that all people deserve to feel well and many women imagine things about men and that doesnt just hurt mens reputation, but it hurts their own view of guys and the world.It hurts their own psyche, which is a way worse thing then to hurts mens reputation..

Everytime you imagine such thoughts of men and gets scared, so you put more and more splinters in to your mind about how bad men are and why.
The only thing that, that mindset really can create, is hate towards men, or phobia.

That is if you don’t work on your own psyche and go in to yourself to see the true source of why you are feeling like you do in the first place and process that.
Otherwise your fear will grow more and more, slowly, turning in to hate.

But... It is up to each humanbeing to work with their own psyche, for their own sake.

Long Live the humans, in all colours and shapes!
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