Chapter 1
I’ve always thought home was a person.
Maybe that’s where I went wrong.
When you’re little, nobody sits you down and explains what love is supposed to look like. You just watch.
You watch the people around you love each other. You watch them argue. You watch them forgive. You watch them leave and come back. You watch people sayI love youand still hurt each other five minutes later.
And eventually, you start calling whatever you’re used tonormal.
I used to think home was wherever the people I loved were.
It didn’t matter if I felt uncomfortable there.
It didn’t matter if I cried there.
It didn’t matter if I had to shrink parts of myself to stay there.
If I loved you, you were home.
And if you were home, I thought I was supposed to stay.
I spent years giving pieces of myself away to people who didn’t always know what to do with them. I confused being needed with being loved. I confused familiarity with safety. I confused staying with loyalty.
I didn’t know any better.
Maybe that’s the saddest part.
Nobody teaches you that some people can love you and still hurt you.
Nobody teaches you that blood doesn’t automatically make a person safe.
Nobody teaches you that your first love might not be your forever love.
Nobody teaches you that friendships can end without either person being a monster.
And nobody tells you how terrifying it is to become the kind of person who finally chooses herself.
I learned most of that the hard way.
So if you’re going to read my story, don’t ask me why I stayed.
Ask yourself what you would’ve called home if you were me.
Because everybody I loved became a place I thought I belonged.
And it took me a long time to realize...
home was never supposed to be somewhere I had to lose myself to stay.








