Introduction
“The actions of men are the best interpreters of their thoughts.”
- James Joyce
There is an ancient old proverb that say, men are from Mars and women are from Venus, is that something that was not only true back when it was first spoken off but is true to this very day. How many times has the question, “what do you men or women really want in a relationship?” or “I just don’t understand women,” or “I just don’t understand men” have you heard through the course of your lifetime? Just take a look on social media and hear conversations all around the world about the battle of the sexes and the confusion of the sexes, and you will begin to see how such a problem still exists. You would think with all of the literature, with all of the knowledge and information about relationships and both sexes there would be nothing but perfect relationships and harmony between men and women involving in those relationships. However, that is not the case. For we see all the time, the breakdowns of marriages, relationships, and in the dating world. People are still suffering from heartbreak, from a messy breakup and the giving up on love.
While brainstorming about writing this book, I thought about how simple and easy it would be to solved this eternal mystery regarding the thinking of the opposite sex if there was an emotional calculator. A calculator that could solved any questions that both sex has about each other. All we had to do was to punch in what the person is doing , how the person is acting, what the person is saying and then press enter. Then out comes what the person is really saying and what the person is really thinking. Oh how life would be so simple and easy if this emotional calculator truly existent. Oh how life would be so simple if we knew exactly what people meant when they spoke, and if we knew exactly what people meant when they behaved. We can finally say good riddance to assumptions, expectations and miscommunications, for this emotional calculator would solved it all for us. Everything would be as clear as day, black and white, with no grey areas, hiding secrets nor secret personal agendas. In a perfect world that would be amazing but we are not living in a perfect world and thus the debate and questions between the sexes continues.
In the late ’90s there was a show on television, Sex in the City, that was extremely popular so much so that during high school debates amongst friends, the ladies would often bring up this show as a reference. The show revolved around a group of female friends confiding with each other about the difficulties of understanding men. Of course, I am not downplaying other aspects and themes of the show but it was the most talked about show amongst my lady friends during high school mainly because of it’s topic on men. Just as that show and how a group of women were confiding with each other about the trials and tribulation they were having with men, is the same why many women all over the world do. So what is the problem here? Don’t you see it? How can a man ask another man about what a woman thinks if he is not a woman? How can a woman ask another woman about what a man thinks if she is not a man? That is like me explaining to one of my male friends the excruciating pain women go through when they are in labour. I can surely describe in words but I cannot related to my friend adequately what the pain feels like because I myself have never been in labour. Likewise, for a woman to seek advice from another woman on what goes on in the mind of a man is a futile endeavour because both of them have no idea on what goes on in the mind of a man because both of them don’t think like a man.
Men and women are liken to your favourite television program, you can only be in tune to what is going on if you are on the proper frequency. To further describe what I mean, when I was growing up my favourite television program was, “Fresh Prince of Bel Air.” We had this old television that didn’t have a remote control but in order to change the channels you need to turn this knob on the television. Let me ask you a question. What do you think would happen if I turned the knob to a channel that was not the channel that had “Fresh Prince of Bel Air” on? Well, the answer is simple. I will be watching another show and it wouldn’t be my favourite show. But if I just turned the knob to the channel that hosted “Fresh Prince of Bel Air” I would be enjoying all that the show “Fresh Prince” has to offer. Men and women are like that analogy. Men and women are on two different channels of thinking because we do know that men and women are indeed different human beings. So it would only makes sense if a man wanted to get to know a woman, that the primarily source of his information should come from a woman.
This is where this book comes into play and is a remedy for a lot of issues women face when dealing with men. With countless of men interviewed; single, married and divorced, females have complete access into the mind of a man within the content of this book. Why do men say certain things when they mean the exact opposite? Why do men hide their emotions despite the fact that they know they should reveal it to his dating partner or even his wife? Why do men lead women on, despite the fact that they know they don’t see a future with her long term? Why do men cheat? Well, these questions and more are answered straight from men themselves. Answers that are uncensored and completely raw with nothing hidden. Answers that are not from a group of women expressing their experiences with men, like Sex in the City, but answers from men expressing their experiences past and present of themselves with women.
Dear women reader, you will be surprised by the answers you will get within this book and it will definitely open your eyes to a lot of things you may not have considered before. Dear men reader, despite the fact that this book is geared towards the awareness in women, this book will challenge you to grow as a man in all areas of your life. Yes, men and women are from Mars and Venus but with the help of this book, the distance between these two planets will be shorten. The distance between understanding men and women will be shorten. As you read this book, have an open mind and see if you can relate to the written words. Dare to venture in? If so, then let us begin.
“Why do men love chasing women? And why do they stop chasing her once he caught her?” Find the answers to this question and more in the next chapter. Unlocking door #1
