Chapter 1
It’s begins with the simple idea that whether we are born smart, tall short, or whatever they way we are out together, their a “Choice”. Simple, we choose to live on like we do, with our heads down and simple conclusions we have, or we we take charge, say fuck the consequences and bite the damn bullet? It some instances this choice may seem clear but for most of us, its not. The color of shameless i see every day is outstanding. As i begin my writing journey, i dont expect to make a fucking dime of this, i expect to help the same stupid kids i was when i was kid. The kids who no one really cared about or thought would end up meaning something. The long hairs, the freaks, the alternative kids, this is my crop. But what is the point in writing in something like this with no end point you may ask? But i think there is a very obvious end point. What was the last time someone asked truthfully “How are you doing?” And meant it? I’m pretty sure its been a long time or none at all. What about the fact about rising above our station. What the fuck does that mean anyway? Above my station? I was predisposed to being a bottom feeder, is that it? I dont think so. I know for a fact i was not a born a common laborer. I know for a fact i was designed for more. So how come we have such a hard time understanding the idea that we do value as a person and we can contribute to so much more? I think one big factor is our upbringing. I’m the sone of immigrant parents, but my situation is a little different. My parents, on paper our academics, which doesn’t exclude the fact that we did struggle financially but in very different degrees. I didn’t grow up with a silver spoon or the latest toys but i sure as hell more than most. My parents enduring character and will to succeed thought me early on that, life in general will not be easy. Not until at least i reached a age were it all made sense. I’m not one to compare and I honestly hate it but if we did and reflected on the values on America lets say about 30 to 50 years, people acted very differently. A lot fo the values have not I’m my own opinion translated well to today. I dont think we value family as much as we did when i was kid. I grew up in the 90’s born in the 80’s. SO we got to live through a very different time before civilized technology came into play. So what is my point i am trying to make here. Maybe we need a little of a old school touch to broaden our minds to better and healthier ways of thinking. Of course these are more like guidelines more than anything however i think from a person who has suffered from anxiety for the majority of his life along with depression and alcoholism, it makes it a little bit better to comprehend. I dont try to write to flashy like the big guys do because i dont think I’m emotionally mature yet to translate those ideas comprehensively yet. This is more of a helping article for those who are looking for some quick bits of help to help with daily bullshit we all have to deal with. But i like to think I’ve been through more mud and stone than some I’ve met and I’m also a very heavy reader of psychology and self help along with philosophy. I truly wish to help those who are the thinking themselves as outcasts and undesirables. Dont think that way. Take it from me, its a poison that never stops feeding into your body unless you can change the way we see our most costly battles. I am not a doctor by any means, far from it, I’m just some dude who happens to get a little bit of his life back day by day and chronicles it for motivational reasons.
I begin by stating that we dont need the approval of outside sources. I’m talking about our immediate circle such as our family and friends. Ill be the first to say it, they will be your very first difficult challenge. Everyone will ask what the fuck you are doing? What is wrong with you, don’t you know what is the unlikely outcome you will fail? High but in the end, is it their choice? I leave you with that question. If you wish to be famous for a designing footwear or creating the first biodegradable toilet paper, GO FOR IT! It doesn’t matter how smart you are or how talented you are, determination will succeed over intelligence every time. While a fearful individual examines their choices a confident person will make a decision immediately. To follow up with this statement, yes you will make failures along the way. Make peace with it. You may say i have and thi and that, trust me you haven’t. I can see the big bottom lip in your face when you dont get your red bull in the morning. In the end none of this shit matters. The big picture is take care of your self first and see the world revolve around you. This is one those secrets I learned while attending therapy. No person has all the answers, as much as we like to think they do. So be wise, learn from people mistakes, they did them for you so you dont repeat them. STAY SHARP! Even if you dont have the answers, even you find yourself in an unfamiliar position, use it. GROW FROM IT. That’s how winning is made. Use your owns experiences. Recall from childhood to now, some of the most memorable experiences were from some of the most terrible situations. It’s ok to be scared but no ok to let it run your life. Thier is a very big line between being fearful and being cautious. Being fearful keeps you living but not alive, cautious keeps you living with a margin of safety. It’s ok to ask if something is not adding or if you dont fully acccept how it comes. Remember one thing, fuck what they think. AS we move on in time, I’m sure you have seen more and more people are becoming more selfish. I return to the point at hand, be courteous be respectful but dont take shit from no one. This doesn’t mean be rude to someone just because they looked at you wrong, but if Ain stick is happening dont take it. People are naturally bully’s, be a bully’s bully, when you need to.
