Never Settle

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Summary

In September 2022, my whole world changed. My children and I were saddened and angered by my ex husband’s mental and physical disappearance. I wondered if it was something I did or didn’t do. I wondered if anything would ever change and for months it didn’t. I ended up doing what I always feared and becoming a single mom to three precious children. I always feared of doing it alone and then I ended up having no choice. The fentanyl took over my ex husband and the father of my children to the point he was no longer recognizable. I begged him to come back and begged him to change and that wasn’t enough. Fast forward to September 2023, we started our divorce process after he finally got clean but then come back with aggravated trafficking of fentanyl. He was able to get supervised visits with our children but I wonder if our children will ever heal from all the damage he has done to them and to me. I always wonder if the damage will be permanent or if we will someday heal. In August 2023, I met a wonderful man who now has my heart and has helped me start my healing journey. What I thought was love was a trauma bond and he has showed me what true love really looks like and I’m so thankful for him and so proud to finally show my children to never settle for the bare minimum, to fight for whats right and to know their worth!

Status
Ongoing
Chapters
1
Rating
n/a
Age Rating
18+

Chapter 1

In March 2022, I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy named Hudson Daniel. God knew I needed him because god knew my husband was slowly disappearing on drugs. Since he was born it has been just me and my children begging for my ex husband to get sober. All while I was busy raising our children, he was out doing drugs, sleeping with other woman and becoming a frequent flyer in detox, rehab and jail. Eventually, he disappeared for good and we went without speaking for quite some time since he was so high on fentanyl you couldn’t get in touch with him.

My uncle, aunt and cousin came to OK to visit my children and I in October 2022 and stayed a week. We had an incredible time and they got to bond with Hudson for the first time. Little did I know it would be my uncle’s last time, he tragically had a heart attack and died a week later at a speedway in Maine. We are so saddened by his death but also so greatful we were able to spend a week together and he got to meet baby Hudson. I will never understand why god needed him so soon but so grateful that I got to be like his third daughter and my daughters got to know him. I wish everyday i could get his advice on life and be able to call him like we always did.

Our baby boy was breastfeeding non stop, our girls started their new school and I eventually moved back to our favoirte small town. A neighboring church helped my children and I move and put everything going foward into my own name. We then began a new chapter of life in our new house solely on our own beginning in February 2023. We love this small town so much we have decided to stay here for good now.