The Girl Who Believed in Forever
When you're young, you don't always know the difference between loving someone and losing yourself in them.
Maybe that's because nobody teaches you.
Nobody sits you down and explains that love isn't supposed to make you afraid. Nobody tells you that you shouldn't have to constantly prove that you're loyal, worthy, faithful or deserving of kindness.
When you're young, love can feel like a promise.
Forever.
That's the word I remember believing in.
Forever sounded beautiful when I was young. It sounded like something you could build your entire life around. A home. A family. Children. Holidays. Ordinary Tuesday nights that didn't seem important until you imagined spending them with the same person for the rest of your life.
I wanted that.
More than anything. I wanted a family that stayed together.
I didn't want to be the reason something fell apart.
So when the first little things started happening, I told myself they weren't important.
I was just spending a little more time with friends.
It was working late
It was choosing somebody else when I wanted to be chosen.
It was a missed conversation.
A forgotten promise.
A night when I sat alone and convinced myself that tomorrow would be different.
There was always a reason.
And when you love someone badly enough, sometimes you'll accept almost any reason because accepting the explanation hurts less than accepting the truth.
The truth was beginning to stand in front of me.
I just wasn't ready to look at it.
I thought if I loved harder, things would get better.
I thought if I became more patient, more understanding, more forgiving, I could somehow hold everything together.
I thought maybe relationships were supposed to be difficult.
Maybe everyone struggled behind closed doors.
Maybe this was just what growing up together looked like.
And maybe, most of all, I was afraid of being wrong.
Because what if everyone had warned me?
What if one day I had to hear those dreaded words:
"I told you so."
I couldn't bear the thought.
So I stayed.
Not because I was happy.
Not because everything was okay.
I stayed because I had built an entire future in my head, and I didn't know how to mourn something that hadn't technically ended yet.
I stayed because there was a family involved.
I stayed because there were memories.
I stayed because there were good days mixed between the bad ones, and those good days were enough to make me question the bad ones.
That's one of the cruelest things about a relationship falling apart.
It rarely happens all at once.
Sometimes love doesn't disappear.
Sometimes fear simply grows around it.
At first, the fear is small.
A feeling in your stomach.
A hesitation before bringing something up.
A calculation before you speak.
You start thinking about how someone might react before you even decide what you want to say.
You learn which subjects are safe.
Which questions aren't.
Which expressions on their face mean you should stop talking.
You don't realize you're changing.
Not at first.
You just thing you're trying to keep the peace.
And keeping the peace becomes more important than having peace.
I didn't know it then but that was the beginning of survival.
I wasn't living my life anymore.
I was managing someone else's reactions to me.
And somehow, I convinced myself that was love.
A note from the author:
Thank you for reading Chapter 1. I wanted to write a story for anyone who has ever loved a future so deeply that they couldn’t see the reality standing right in front of them. It takes a unique kind of heartbreak to mourn something before it has even ended.
I want the comment section below to be a gentle, quiet place of understanding. If a specific line in this chapter put a feeling into words that you’ve carried for a long time, please share it with me below, or simply say hello. Every single comment is a beautiful reminder that our stories connect us.
