Intro
Several people may wonder and ask themselves, “How can someone be so young and educated on love”? They might even think to themselves, “She’s too young to know the true definition of love, and the deep meaning behind the word love”. Truth be told, age doesn’t define the moment you will experience love, come in contact with love, receive it or even distribute it to others. When you grow up in a society where it’s rare to see others being affectionate or dishing out love, you never really know what “love” is because we never had any prime examples of it to know what it is, and to realize when love is being shown. Having to grow up in an environment that is strung on tough love makes you lose sense of reality and how love is supposed to be dished out. Does anyone really know the true definition of love? How do you know your definition of love is the accurate definition? How do you know when you love someone, or when they love you? Unfortunately, you may never really know.
Some have doubts when it comes to loving someone, some may not think it’s the right thing to do, some may be in denial with being in love because they never experienced it to know if they are “in love”, some may be hesitant on showing love because they might not where it’s heading, due to never having anyone show them. Love is a scary, unpredictable situation. For example, the love a mother has for her new born child is unconditional, that’s a certain type of love that you catch immediately. I still have my moments, and days to myself when I question what love actually is, and wonder if the things I’m feeling is me being in love, or is it me being lust? This is a question that many people have to contemplate because the two get intertwined and complicate everything.
Some parents don’t fulfil their kids' lives with love which interferes with them when they are older. Due to parents being incompetent with love towards their children, which is also needed for a child to grow up healthy and live a contempt life, they have to show them the basics. Adults usually think feeding, nurturing, spoiling, bathing, teaching them the fundamentals is enough. Love is another fundamental job that parents tend to lack and fail to give to their children, which plays a major role in their lives. But how can we blame our parents for not showing us the true definition of love, and they never experienced it from their parents either?
Regrettably, this is a generational curse that is passed down from generation to generation. Who will break this curse, put an end to the mindset of doing the basics for you kid is enough for their development? Many people in my current generation are realizing this is also something that is frequently happening. We realize it, and plan to make a change and break this way of thinking. Showing a child and raising them on unconditional love, rather than tough love makes a huge difference. Some might show their kids tough love, which is sometimes necessary, but some parents also forget to show unconditional love at the same time which plays a negative role on their well-being, mental health, and decision making. Love is a blessing, and should be a feeling of excitement when giving it to others. Why is that so hard?
