Chapter 1: Author's Message - You're Only Human
Please note: The stories begin at Chapter 2.
This is a work in progress and is updated weekly.
This chapter is not here to comfort, but to confront you. It should allow you to see your kink in a new light. Chapter 1 is a brief dive into the statistics on rape fantasy prevelance and the real numbers on the millions of people masturbating to the same scenarios you’re afraid to admit you crave.
This book is unafraid to understand your desires and put them into words.
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DO NOT READ THIS BOOK IF YOU ARE NOT LOOKING FOR EROTICA DEPICTING NON-CONSENUAL, EXPLICIT, RAVISHMENT, BLACKMAIL, BRIBERY OR OTHERWISE.
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The anthology begins in chapter two. Some stories are written in third person, some are written in first and second person, placing you in the story with the characters. This book is designed to be read by men and women. Men will tend to find those written in first person from the female perspective more appealing, (i.e. 'You feel me tighten around your cock, unable to help myself.'), and women will tend to find those written from the male perspective more appealing ('I force myself inside, completely filling you.'). Some stories are written from both perspectives, and these are highlighted each time, telling you which page to turn go if you want to read from the other male/female perspective.
For now, we'll talk about why we isolate ourselves regarding posssing a rape-kink, and the shame, fear and guilt that comes with it.
I'm not here to justify, discuss morals, or apologise. I am here with an attempt to explain, because you're human, and you're in the majority.
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Rape Fantasy Statistics and Facts:
So, listen, I know the routine. I know you’ve typed the searches. You’ve clicked the links. You’ve scrolled past the warnings, past the disclaimers, only to ultimately backpedal and quickly delete everything from your history. I know, because I've done it, too.
So, here are some facts for you (with links to the studies/citations).
Most importantly, know this: Rape fantasies are shockingly common, and they don’t predict real-world violence. They don’t mean women want to be raped, they don’t mean men want to rape.
If we look at the 2009 study published in The Journal of Sex Research, it found that 62% of women have experienced rape fantasies. Of those, about 14% of women who have these fantasies engage with them at least once a week.
Nearly half (46%) of these fantasies are described as "erotic-aversive", meaning they are simultaneously arousing and distressing. This "push-pull" is a documented part of the human sexual experience, and is your primal arousal centre clashing with your modern moral brain - (Study) The nature of women's rape fantasies: an analysis of prevalence, frequency, and contents - PubMed - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19085605/
A paper published a year earlier by the same authors shows that for 9% to 17% of women who have fantasies in which they are forced against their will, it is their frequent or most common sexual fantasy. - (Study) Women's erotic rape fantasies: an evaluation of theory and research - PubMed - https://share.google/3hU7YIKELS2e2i1dD
If we combine these figures, then the favourite sexual fantasy of 6 - 10 of every 100 women you pass every day in the street is to be forced to have sex against her will. And yet we're not allowed to talk about it. And we're definitely not allowed to call it rape.
Why?
There are many reasons why women may have sexual fantasies about being raped, and it has very little correlation to their upbringing or moral code.
One suggestion is The "Psychological Loophole": Evolution has wired us with high social and moral stakes regarding sex. For many, a rape fantasy acts as a total surrender of responsibility. If the choice is taken from you in the fantasy, your brain is freed from being the "gatekeeper" of shame, inhibition, or moral second-guessing. It is a psychological loophole that allows for total erotic release.
The Desirability Paradox: Evolutionary psychologists suggest these fantasies often center on Ultimate Desirability. The core of the arousal isn't the violence, it’s the idea of being so irresistibly attractive that a mate "cannot help themselves", and acts as a subconscious confirmation of your own sexual power.
My personal takeaway, is that I think it's a combination of many things. I have had this kink for as long as I can remember. The lack of power, being so desired that someone can't stop themselves certainly feeds into it, but I also believe a primal part of being a woman is just wanting to be fucked like a dog, used, and left groaning and dripping on the bed.
And for the men reading this: I know you’re holding your breath, too. You’ve been told that your fantasies of taking control, of force, or of dominance make you a predator-in-waiting.
But the science says otherwise. A major study in Quebec (Joyal et al., 2015) found that over 20% of men in the general population have fantasized about forcing a partner. When we look at 'forcing a partner to submit,' that number climbs to nearly 43%. Men are afraid to say "I want to rape someone" and are far more likely to admit to wanting to 'force someone to submit', or to have an 'aggression related sexual fantasy'. The latter of which recieves a whopping near three-quarters of men who admit to that fantasy. - (Study) - What exactly is an unusual sexual fantasy? The Journal of Sexual Medicine - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25359122/
The most important takeaway from decades of clinical research is this: There is zero predictive link between these fantasies and a desire for non-consensual experiences in reality.
Your mind is a private theater. In that theater, you are the director, the star, and the audience. Just because you watch a horror movie doesn't mean you want to be murdered, and just because you crave the "forced" narrative doesn't mean you want to be a victim, or a perpertrator.
I want men and women to own their desires, and to scream from the rooftops (or whisper to their partner between the sheets) "I want to force / be forced, use / be used, own / be owned." Statistics tell us their partner will likely be a willing companion. Just ensure you use safewords and maintain constant communication.
