Introduction
This Is Not Just About Money
This is not just about money.
It never really is.
Money is only the surface of something deeper, how we love, how we survive, how we attach ourselves to people, and what we believe we deserve in relationships.
In queer relationships especially, money becomes more than numbers. It becomes safety. It becomes structure where there was none. It becomes the unspoken language of stability in a world that does not always offer us easy paths, family support, or traditional systems to fall back on.
So we learn sometimes early, sometimes painfully that love and survival can start to look the same.
And that is where things get complicated.
Because some of us are trying to build a life. Some of us are trying to be taken care of. Some of us are trying to escape struggle through love. And some of us are giving everything, hoping it will be enough to keep someone close.
But love is not a financial strategy.
It is not something you use to access a lifestyle you did not build. And it is not something you should carry alone just to keep it alive.
This book is not here to shame anyone. It is here to reflect what many of us already know but rarely say out loud:
That wanting stability is valid. But expecting someone else to build your entire stability is where relationships begin to break.
And that real partnership, real love requires something deeper than desire.
It requires participation.
Not just emotionally. But in how we think, how we show up, how we handle responsibility, and how we build something together that can actually last.
This is not just about money.
This is about what it means to build with someone… instead of attaching yourself to what they have already built.
I just finished reading the summary and introduction. they really Madame think about the relationship between money and romance, I am excited to dive into the rest of the book and explore .